Handling yourself when people don't agree with you

 I was an awkward teenager growing up. I won't divulge on it, but as I entered university, I somehow felt that I had an opinion on everything. And in those times, I found myself in countless debates (or arguments) that I'm used to today. Not that I welcome sour outcomes, but growing older, I don't have this bubbling rage when someone doesn't see things my way. 

It's funny now, looking at the people I've debated with, people who throw a fit and takes it personally when I'm not among the sea of yessirs on their feed. I don't remember much, but there was one instance where I wrote clearly (yet not sarcastically) that I disagreed with someone's post online. This girl misunderstood it for an attack, sent a flurry of unnecessary comments and ended it with a "Btw, your dad knows my dad." I remember being in Japan at the time doing my non-degree program asking myself what exactly was the point of that statement. It was completely irrelevant to our current discussion (at least from my side, it was a discussion). Was it a threat? I don't see how telling someone's father that a girl disagrees with her post does anything much. Then again, it might. I wouldn't know. Sadly, I heard that the father has passed, and I wish the family well.

For me, I learn not to take discussions personally. What's more, I learn not to attach a name to the argument. Because if you do, your mind would associate this person with traits that you already know of them, and it will always be the bad ones. It's not fair to them.